“why ghost me?”

The world of dating apps is...frustrating. I’ve had profiles on different apps on and off since I was 18 years old. In the past five years, not much has changed, for better or worse. Men are still gross in their approach, or immediately become gross at the opportunity of conversation, or they’re just plain mean. I recently matched with a man who, surprisingly, was not any of those things to begin.

The conversation started off flirty and fun, with no red flags going off in my head. It continued to an honest conversation of what we were looking for (both looking for serious relationships), and what we’d been through (both recently out of long term relationships). He asked for my number and I obliged, which surprisingly does not happen often (the asking or my reciprocating). We texted a bit, mostly random stuff, then he again asked what I was looking for, which I had already answered in the app. However, I didn’t think much of it and simply sent along what I had said before. He reiterated what he said on the app as well, then added...“And full disclosure I have a super high sex drive”.

In all honesty, I should've stopped there. Unfortunately, I continued. The conversation continued into our sexual history, which is fine by me, I'm an open book. But...it kept coming back to his sex drive. And like I told him, it's perfectly fine to have a high sex drive, but for myself it's gonna take some time to get to know you before I feel comfortable with that high sex drive.

Anyway, to make this long story short, we had sex once.

The next day I received "You arent ghosting me are you??" simply because I wasn't texting. When I sent a detailed text in response explaining how busy I was during the day I got a simple "ok good".

The following day I received this beauty of a text...

1. Not exactly how I worded our experience after

2. What a fucking ego! Who says that?!

3. Texting works both ways...

He then asked if I could come over, which I declined because I was busy. Needless to say, I was done at this point. However, my sister and I had a good laugh at this last text from him.

So yes, the world of dating apps continues to be frustrating, even when it starts out decent, men continue to disappoint.

-AKB

EDIT: Over a month later, he 'liked' me on Hinge again. No message, just liked a photo. I proceeded to block him on Hinge.

EDIT 2: Apparently resetting my matches on Hinge removes the people blocked.